Im important. So are other people, especially if they are in trouble. I have a tender heart, but I know how to establish and keep personal boundaries. Im empathetic and compassionate, butI also believe that it's best if people solve their own problems and learn to take care of themselves, if they are able.
Im deeply moved by the needs of others, but I know that if I don't take good care of me, I'll wind up being of no use to anyone. I strive to be fair and sensible, taking care of others while also taking care of me.
When someone really is in trouble, I like to collaborate with them toward a solution; they do their part, and I do mines. I consider carefully, and respond in a sensible way; they do their part, and together I move through the difficulty.
I seldom act impulsively; rather, when a problem arises, I take mine time to think through the situation. This contemplative quality usually means that I'll arrive at a diplomatic solution, one that's fair for the other person and also fair to me. It's frequently a win/win situation.